I’ve noticed, to my shame, that I’ve become less patient with people who seem to be thoughtless (at best) or mean (at worst).
The dialog running through my head goes something like this:
“Really? Really?? You HAD to say that? Why not just be NICE? Wouldn’t it actually take less energy — and give you a greater emotional reward then spreading your awful attitude??”
Sometimes it isn’t something that’s said or done, but rather, something that is NOT said or done.
So on today’s post, I’m providing my own TOP 10 LIST of ways to be more thoughtful and selfless in 2013. AND!! — this comes to you free of charge.
Some people say it’s worth what you pay for it…
- If you’re in line at Costco with a flatbed-truckload of crackers and toilet paper, and the person behind you has only loaf of cheese, for crying out loud — let them check out first and be on their way.
- USE YOUR BLINKERS. It’s that little lever on your steering column and it prevents accidents. It is also said to greatly reduce the probability of people shaking their fists at you while you stop for apparently NO REASON.
- Smile more. It’s that simple.
- If you work in retail, don’t spend your time complaining about how loooong your shift is and how badly you want to go home. It’s unbecoming.
- Put your ever-loving phone away at gatherings. Remember: you’re supposed to be there to interact and build relationships. Facebook is not a relationship.
- Don’t be curt in your responses, even if someone asks you a stupid question. You can think it in your head, but sarcasm with strangers doesn’t evoke much warmth.
- Say please and thank you. Often. It never goes out of style.
- Compliment your waiter, your child’s teacher, and your spouse. It matters.
- Be genuinely interested in the person you’re talking to. Remember their name and at least one thing about them so that next time you see them, you can ask about grandma, their job, the dog’s surgery, etc. Which brings me to the next natural step:
- Stop blabbing about yourself and ask thoughtful questions of others. It’s amazing how much people appreciate this.