It’s been raining here for days. I’m beginning to sympathize with Noah’s wife. I’m cooped up with
kids bouncing off the walls [eh-hem]…with my little angels, unable to comprehend what it would have been like to co-habitate with an entire ZOO! For 40 days!
It’s not that I don’t enjoy our kids or that I don’t want them around; I’ve actually really loved these days of having them home from school, reading together, baking cookies, and generally recreating the set of Leave It To Beaver in our cozy subdivision. However, my personal angst starts to pester me when I look around and feel the tug of laundry and disgusting floors-that-must-be-mopped-post-haste.
Perhaps you’ll be able to relate with my struggle to balance. Whether you’re a mom juggling kids and personal endeavors or you’re not a parent but still trying to navigate the list of to-do’s and would-like-to-do’s, it’s hard! The voice in my head urges me to walk my own path while the voices of our kids beg for board games and trips to the library. How much should I give?
I stumbled on this article on Twitter a few days ago and have been mulling it over ever since. Helen Lee is the author of The Missional Mom: Living With Purpose at Home and In The World—-a book that’s on my stack for summer reading. In this article for The Introverted Church, Lee proclaims that giving your kids your all is not only unhealthy for you, but that it is actually un-biblical.
“It sounds admirable, [i.e, putting your kids at the center of your life] but Christian parents are called to recognize that our children are not supposed to be the center of our lives, no matter how much our “plan-for-college-when-kids-are-preschoolers” society wants to push parents to embrace this particular form of idolatry.” [Helen Lee]
I think it’s fair to say that parents and non-parents struggle to reach a healthy balance in their lives. It’s easy to allow tangible things–and other people–to become the gods of our lives. In my own life I’ve found that the road to idolatry is a slippery slope; even if those idols are “good things,” in my heart I know they’ve stolen a position that should not belong to them.
So readers, I’m curious to know your take on this. Is giving 100% to your kids unbiblical idolatry? For you non-parents, what has claimed your 100%?