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"Husband of the Year" with 2 of our 3 kids

It’s not that he’s a work-a-holic, truly.

It’s that his job as a high school principal is so demanding.

HIGH SCHOOL. Remember it?

Land of student congress activities, dances, athletic events, clubs, National Honor Society, parent-teacher conferences, professional development with teachers, staffing issues, behavior problems, graduation…

Of course then there’s CLASS, too! 

We all love our husbands, honoring them as hard workers and providers, and I’m no different. And though I’m biased, clearly, I have to say that Brandon is, without a doubt, the hardest working person I know. I’m very proud of him and respect what he does all day when he’s not here pouring me cold Cokes and rubbing my shoulders. (cough)

(Here comes the “however”…)

However, I’d be lying if I said that his absence wasn’t felt acutely and if I didn’t wish for more time together. I’d be lying if I claimed it didn’t kill me to see him drive away to an indoor evening event and miss out on the gift of this spring weather.

(Another one…)

However, those feelings are balanced by the realization that his sacrifice allows me to work from home and keep our family anchored in a way that we deem important.

So, wives, what do we do when our husbands have to work…a lot?

1. Pray for him. I have to say, I am ashamed of how many times this does not occur to me! Pray for strength, wisdom in difficult decisions, and guidance, always.

2. Practice gratitude. Remember that because your husband is employed, you are afforded the life you live. If you are a stay-at-home mom, you may experience a special kind of gratitude, realizing that his work makes it possible for you to be home raising your children. If you work outside of the home, you may feel grateful for the way you partner together financially.

3. Make time to be together. It seems this would go without saying, but it takes effort! Even if your time together is take-out on the couch, setting aside an hour here and there to connect without kids is vital.

4. Map it out! Michael Hyatt had a guest post recently that resonated with me. The author encouraged us to have a mission statement for our marriage. What are we about? What are our shared values and goals? Knowing where you want to be as a couple after the kids leave the nest is crucial! (I recently heard that the #2 group most likely to divorce is the “been-married-for 20-25 years-and-the-kids-just-left” group. Yikes!!)

5. Be an encourager. Check out this article for more awesome ideas. My husband’s already thanking me for reading it!

“Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice!…encourage one another, be of one mind, and live in peace.” from 2 Cor 13:11


How do you support your hard-working husband?